Friday, March 13, 2009

To Eat or Not To Eat

去年曾發過一文【Sickness Raid】,描寫一次突如其來的暈眩。
那時搞笑地以「中邪」來做結,但留言中DD提出了「梅尼爾氏症」的可能性,
雖然至今仍撐著沒去看醫生,但當時孤狗了梅尼爾氏症的種種症狀和相關資料,
老劉心裡幾乎已是深信不疑這一定就是我的痼疾。
由於資料中提到了這種病是無法根治的,只能在發作時進行症狀的緩解治療,
所以在大部份老劉處於「還算健康 (i.e.沒有暈到大吐特吐或站不住的程度)」的狀況時,
我是不會特別去在意的。

但剛剛在老劉常逛的人氣部落格「酪梨壽司的日記」中,
發現壽司的大白先生也被診斷出梅尼爾氏症,才又引起我對這件事的注意。

壽司文中引用的資料:
彰化秀傳醫院耳鼻喉部部長鍾從得解釋:「梅尼爾氏症是一種內耳病變所導致的平衡功能失調,因而引發眩暈,由於病情發作時,頓時感到天旋地轉,聽力障礙,甚至惡心、嘔吐,耳朵很不舒服,甚至有疼痛感,影響生活品質至鉅,好發於30至50歲成年人。以目前所知,成因仍不明,可能是壓力過大、自體免疫出問題,或上呼吸道感染,造成病毒或細菌入侵內耳道,引發內淋巴水腫,造成陣發性眩暈、耳鳴及時好時壞的感覺神經聽力喪失。」(引用自《聯合報》〈梅尼爾氏症 天旋地轉〉)
以及
高醫的耳鼻喉科主治醫師張漢明說:「病人常會抱怨怕聽到吵雜的聲音,在市場或車站等喧嘩公共場所會很不舒服。」(引用自高醫醫訊月刊

讓我看了不禁連連點頭稱是,這些症狀說明真是一語道破筆拙老劉的心聲啊!

我經常性地處於嚴重耳鳴狀態中,
(所謂「嚴重」指的是不像一般坐飛機起降時,可能會有的那種微弱低鳴聲和異樣感,
而是以一種幾乎干擾我聽覺的吵雜聲持續進行著),
偶爾當睡眠不足或較疲累時,也會有些微暈眩欲嘔的感覺出現,
更別說我一向對太過擁擠吵雜的市集場合沒有什麼忍受力。
原本以為是自己太大驚小怪,才會對可能「大家難免都有的不適」意識過高,
所以當瞭解了這真的是「一種堂堂正正的病」後,其實反而鬆了一口氣,
總算我不是個過於神經緊張的怪人 (--> 老劉一直有種怕被歸類為「怪人」恐懼…),
才會叨念著自己這兒不舒服、那裡受不了之類的。

然而酪梨壽司的發文,引起我決定著文寫這麼多whining的其實是一則讀者留言:
「…分享一下台大眩暈科醫師說梅尼爾氏症不可以吃的東西~~
紅酒.啤酒.起士.巧克力.柳橙.蕃茄.牛奶
…」
再加上也有別的留言提到,「飲食上要注意清淡少鹽…」

看得老劉整個臉上三條線…
除了啤酒之外,紅酒、起士、巧克力、牛奶 幾乎都是老劉的心頭好,
更別說我一向嗜吃重口味的食物。

讓老劉不禁任性地想,
如果都不能吃紅酒、起士、巧克力、牛奶等等所謂「不健康的食物」,
要頭暈目眩想吐?
那我寧願就去頭暈目眩想吐罷…

(看到這裡,嚴禁讀者們有「死好!」等類似的內心口白出現,謝謝合作。)

Monday, March 02, 2009

To Tell, Or Not To Tell? That’s the ART…

俗話說「Honesty is the best policy」
老劉當然可以贊同這句話的道理。

然而,在職場上常有一種情形,讓我不知究竟該不該將我所認知的事實,大聲說出來。
至今,每每碰到這種場合,還是讓老劉不知如何應對。
寫出來,或許讀者中有善於處理職場關係的朋友,可以給老劉一些睿智而實用的建議…

狀況是這樣的,
老劉在工作上,常有機會跟公司「上級長官」一同出去開會,
常在某些開會或討論的場合,有長官會忽然冒出些「並不那麼正確」的資訊宣告以鼓舞士氣。
眼見長官在眾員工前談(吹?)得起勁,眾家員工也隨著這些資訊起舞,全場士氣激昂,
坐在一旁的老劉,卻是內心煎熬吶喊著:「Wait a moment! 事情好像不是這樣的….」
默默而激烈地自顧自上演著內心戲,
掙扎著不知道是否該提供正確的資訊,以免大家事後發現真相有落差時失望
(或搞不好還要怪老劉沒幫忙掌握完整而正確的資訊)。
然而,在眾員工面前指出長官慷慨激昂、比手指腳說著的事情很有可能是錯的,
會不會又給長官們「不識相、白目、扯後腳、拆台」的印象,老劉平白扮了壞人??

舉兩個最近的例子…
例一,
前兩天和大陸同事’09年Kickoff Meeting聚餐席間,
為了激勵銷售(sales)們的士氣,老闆春風得意地說著:
「別以你們去年的成績就感到自滿,我們全公司去年就賣了xxx套產品、xxx套產品,
大陸地區雖做得可以,但也還有很大的努力空間啊….」
觥籌交錯間,老闆吹噓點數字本來也就不是什麼大事,大可不必在意甚至往心裡去,
可偏偏說了幾句後,老闆還要轉過頭來問我:「Julie,對罷,去年我們就賣了xxx……」
哎呀~ 老闆大人說的數字不僅不正確,還與事實相去『甚遠』~~
眼見不僅老闆,就連一群員工們也停下話來,眼巴巴地等著我回句話,
那那那…我能說:「錯!我們’08年其實只一共賣了產品xxx套及產品xxx套嗎?」
那豈不是當場拆了老闆的台?這員工也可以直接坐進冷宮了罷。
所以,當下老劉只好說:「嗯…嗯…數字我一時記不得了…」
見我話接不下去,老闆也懶得再搭理我。
然而,這件事依舊在腦中困擾著老劉的是,
以老闆的身份或心態而言,當下究竟是希望我提供正確的資訊,還是要我幫著隨口瞎說?
又像我當下不知如何回應,所以聲稱我「不知道」,
是否給老闆一種腦殘、而要資料時總幫不上忙的印象?

例二,
Kickoff Meeting中產品研發部的長官在談到產品Roadmap時,
聲稱我們在產品中將推出一個「競爭廠商都沒有的技術功能…」「此項功能為技術長的創新技術…」,並且大加宣揚此項功能的特有價值及強大市場應用。
會間,同事們莫不大受鼓舞,為領導的英明睿智大加稱頌,
數人爭相起閧勸進公司針對該項功能技術申請專利,得以大大加強公司競爭力云云…
再次,坐在會議中一角的老劉又開始坐立難安,冷汗直冒大演內心戲。
因為,工作上時常需要study競爭廠商產品技術的老劉,
明明曾在市場上不只一家的競爭產品中見到此項功能,
銷售們被鼓勵在未來在客戶端用此作為killer application去介紹張揚時,
難保不會被客戶直接打槍,被潑一大桶冷水。
但是在當下的「熾烈氣氛」中,老劉絕對是不適宜(或沒那個膽)去直接質疑的,
至終我還是選擇一聲不發,
然而,憂慮仍然悄悄種進了老劉的心裡。
誰知道,等同事們發現這項「獨家專有」的秘密武器原來不過南柯一夢時,
老闆會不會反而怪罪老劉的市場資訊提供不完全?
(但也沒人來在放話前事先問過我的意見呀~)

總之,
To tell, or not to tell (the truth)
不僅是個question,不能有個非黑即白的答案,
更是一項深奧難解的藝術啊。

Tuesday, February 03, 2009

2009 Seeing & Readings (I)

Sidebar上的「近期停看聽」,
原本也不過是因為和友人三不五時總要互相問一下:
「你最近讀了什麼書?有什麼可以推薦嗎?」
為了常常明明記得之前讀了什麼書還不錯, 可被友人一問起時卻腦袋空空,怎麼也想不起來,
索性作個tracking,弄個書單放在網上,方便直接查看。
又為了sidebar的list總不能『落落長』地沒完沒了,於是就衍生個定期的不負責任書評,
以方便purge list後,更早的記錄不會就此消失,讀過的書雖年代久遠也仍舊可考……
解釋這麼多,要闡明的只是:
看倌,我真的只是隨便評評啊~
既不負責任,也擺明了沒啥深度,純粹反應老劉個人讀書喜好而已~~

但最近,卻有不只一個會來逛逛的友人,和老劉閒聊時催促我更新荒廢已久的不負責任書評,
因為他們可是將這久久一次的書單點評,做為他們選書時的重要參考。

啊~ 壓力啊~~ 老劉不能handle壓力~~~

雖說有人督促老劉別偷懶也算好事一樁,不然拖得太久那些讀過的書內容都要忘記泰半,
可是想到有人可能因為老劉的胡言亂語多花了幾兩銀,
讀了本覺得索然無味的書後,心裡會暗暗埋怨老劉的品味不優, 就有股壓力油然而升。
所以,除了回應好友們的催促趕緊來一發書單更新外,
請容我再次強調,
這是「不負責任書評」、不負責任書評啊~
而重點是落在『不負責任』四個字~~

不負責任 不負責任 不負責任不負責任 不負責任 不負責任 不負責任 不負責任 (<--- 我是分隔線)

這次的書單中其實品項很少, 倒不是因為最近又變更忙了導致沒時間看書。
主因是老劉的老爸(老老劉?)最近給了老劉一大堆日劇DVDs,
讓家裡「沒電視」、平時不看電視的老劉, 為了不讓老爸掃興,也開始在晚上撥些時間看日劇,
至今已消化了六、七套日劇,自然讀書的時間就大幅減少,
或許該考慮也把日劇列進「近期停看聽」,大放厥詞、可以佔佔版面罷......

1) 不專業偵探社 (The Spellman Files):這本書的文案號稱「一本讓你笑到小腹燃脂的小說」,但說實話,除了少數地方作者憤世嫉俗的特有幽默讓老劉微微嘴角牽動外,還真想不出哪裡讓老劉開懷大笑,更別提我的小腹依舊便便。不負責任推薦指數2.5顆星。

2) 梅崗城故事 (To Kill a Mockingbird):之所以讀這本書,完全是衝著炯叔的推薦。從很久前就聽聞這本書不錯,但因為知道它的內容主要處理種族歧視的議題,讓老劉預想它會是本沉重而憂傷的小說。而之前曾看過老劉不負責任書評的看倌便知道,老劉是個不喜歡這類題材的讀者,不論是書或電影我都不愛看悲劇,完全一派鴕鳥心態,不去瞭解就能讓假裝世界大同,人人幸福快樂。但就像終究鼓起勇氣讀了【追風箏的孩子】和【燦爛千陽】,想想,或許一本好書也是值得老劉為之掬一把傷感的眼淚,從地洞裡稍稍探出頭來接受這殘酷世界的考驗的。【梅崗城故事】絕對是本好書,其雋永之處在於不僅將其要表達對人性的省思與批判清楚呈現之外,其溫和筆調與豐富的說故事方式,讓讀者在傷感的故事主軸與結局之外,心中對純真善良的本質仍能保持樂觀。不負責任推薦指數給4.5顆星。

3) Odyssey: Pepsi to Apple : A Journey of Adventure, Ideas, and the Future (蘋果戰爭):讀這本書是個很『妙』的選擇。大家應該都對Apple蘋果電腦這個老牌科技廠商曾經大起大落的故事略有耳聞,在這些傳頌故事裡的主角,是曾經被掃地出門,爾後又以iPod演出大復活的Apple創辦人兼精神領袖,Steve Jobs。而這本書,老劉之所以稱『妙』就妙在:身為一本「商智叢書」,它十足是個「過期品」。它是當時在權力鬥爭中將Jobs趕出Apple的總經理,John Sculley,的自傳。該書出版的時機(1987年初版),是在Jobs被趕出Apple後,時值蘋果電腦在市場上獲得了小小的「come back」,而讓Sculley在書中自述為一個將Apple由Jobs搞垮的泥淖中救起的英雄,因而他在書裡對Jobs原先在Apple中所提倡的所謂「蘋果精神」和「做事方式」多所批判。然而,誰知在小小的復甦後,蘋果電腦在市場上又是節節敗退、生意不斷下滑,作者Sculley最後也非風光地踉蹌下台,但是,這些當然己是不被包含在書本裡的「後話」。而讓老劉覺得特別的地方就在,看這本書不僅能感受到所謂「成者為王,敗者為寇」的奧義,更令我深深警惕的是要「不以一時成敗論英雄」。畢竟,當時誰也想不到幾年後,Jobs再度回到Apple(1997年),並以iPod讓Apple起死回生(2001年),在科技界成為人們爭相討論的傳奇。在讀此書的當下,看到當時Sculley對Jobs領導方式的諸多批評,再對照今日大家對Jobs的推崇,每每能讓老劉會心一笑,不過這當然並非書本的原意便是。不負責任推薦指數2顆星(如果不提書本之外老劉感受的特別趣味的話…)。

4) 幽默公寓-親愛的,你在聽我說嗎?:一本以詼諧率真的筆調描寫一個法國家庭日常生活的輕鬆小說,過了這麼久再來寫書評,其實都想不起本書有什麼特別值得一提之處,只說明了它實在不怎麼樣罷?不負責任推薦指數2顆星。

5) 搞鬼稅務員 (Confessions of a Tax Collector):我自己都解釋不來為何要讀這麼一本冷門的小說。認真想來,是當時一個讓我聯想起一部看過的電影,口白人生 (Stranger than Fiction),的小小情緒牽動,讓老劉拿起了這本以稅務員為題材的小說。可話說回來,此書所描寫的美國稅務員,在台灣的稅務系統及環境下讓讀者較難理解,看書時還得多加些自己的想像力。不負責任推薦指數2顆星。

6) 消失的藍衣女孩 (Two Little Girls in Blue):書店暢銷排行榜中的作品,但只能說以其偵探小說的故事內容與作者說故事技巧而言,可說是了無新意,而其想特別強調的雙胞胎心電感應題材,卻又顯得有些矯情和虛假。若不太要求,湊合著用來殺殺時間尚可。不負責任推薦指數1.5顆星。

7) 溫柔酒吧 (The Tender Bar: A Memoir):讀一個會說故事的人的自傳是一大樂事。此書沒有什麼驚人的故事情節,述說的作者自身的故事,有人生中的迷惘、追尋、歡笑、悲傷和領悟,娓娓道來而讓老劉享受其流露的各種喜怒哀樂。不負責任推薦指數3.5顆星。

8) 天生嫩骨 (Tender at the Bone):一連兩本書名裡有「Tender」的閱讀,一連兩本作者自傳式的寫作,非但沒讓老劉煩膩,反而是聽故事聽上了癮。英文書名挺有詩意,而中文書名翻譯更是讓人好奇內容到底是什麼,其實作者本身是位美食評論家,因此在書中不時穿插著對美食的介紹,而更多的是作者以幽默溫暖的筆觸描寫其成為美食家背後的生活故事。不負責任推薦指數4顆星。

9) 深夜加油站遇見蘇格拉底 (Way of the peaceful warrior: a book that changes lives):記得這本書翻拍的電影之前似乎曾在Oscar小小露臉,心想老劉已經很久沒空看電影了(悲~),那可以讀讀書也是不錯。但讀了這本書之後,只能說它完全不如我所預想,內容也不完全不是我的菜。說教的痕跡過於明顯,充滿哲學的闡揚也就罷了,故事卻偏偏不如【牧羊少年奇幻之旅】般引人入勝。不負責任推薦指數2顆星。

10) 長尾理論─打破80/20法則的新經濟學 (The Long Tail):Pareto rule,或稱80/20法則,相信很多人都聽過,不僅被行銷策略人奉為圭臬,有時也見應用於如時間管理等其他議題之上。而長尾理論這本書,提出了一個long tail的觀察和理論,指出在現今科技發展的環境下,long tail將帶來行銷經營策略上重大觀念性革命。不是文學類書籍,無所謂好看或不好看,所以不給不負責任推薦指數星等,倒可推薦的是作者表達的理念清楚順暢且具說服力。

11) 交換日記 11:從多年前的第一集看到現在第十一集了,忠實捧場是老劉這種老派讀者不得不為的制約行為,即便其實早已不像以前那麼有趣了。不負責任推薦指數2顆星。

12) 把妹達人 (The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists):題材爆特別的一本書,內容雖說不上什麼高潮起伏,卻讓老劉忍不住一頁一頁讀下去。但讀完後,盤踞在老劉腦中不去的問題是:「這真的是自傳式的真實經歷嗎?!」如果書中所描寫的「把妹招數」和「PUA秘密社群」真實存在,光是知道這世界如此千奇百怪,就讓這本書值回票價。不負責任推薦指數3顆星。 外話,孤狗一下,還真能找到書中提到的PUA group,這個 --> http://www.thundercatseductionlair.com/ 原來我過去一直活在象牙塔裡啊~ 這世界果真是什麼都有,什麼都不奇怪…)

13) 來不及穿的8號鞋 (All the Numbers):老劉是鼓足了百分之兩百二的勇氣,才總算將一直被我刻意冷凍了好一段時間的這本小說拿起來讀。何解?因為這本書本身就是悲劇題材,更別說它的悲劇來自於一個意外中失去一個11歲兒子的單親母親...白髮人送黑髮人,這是讓升格為媽媽的老劉認為絕對是世間第一悲的慘事,而老劉害怕去窺探一絲絲這樣的傷痛,怕明知只是小說故事,也怕讓老劉深陷悲傷而無法自拔 (鴕鳥心態再次展現無遺…)。但,「幸運」的是,這本書的作者寫作功力必定不算上乘,所以輕易讓老劉從故事當中脫離出來,還懷疑她所描寫的悲傷深度。不負責任推薦指數勉強給上2顆星。

Friday, January 16, 2009

Our Heritage (VI)

還有故事可以聽…

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Lin’s Heritage #6 On Education

Among our family members, although we are doing OK at school, we all agree that none of us is really gifted at all. This fact was made acutely obvious to us by knowing those really gifted at school. For example, Susan has a friend who made her tenured professorship of physics at age around 30. What we agreed was overall we had an above average IQ and lots of honest effort made toward what we were trying to do.

Your Grandma decided that her children, me and my sister, should have education that should go as high as possible even though she was illiterate, and so were her parents adopted her. My father’s side offered no hope of education either; every one was illiterate.

Both myself and my sister did not go to any kinder garden, or pre-school classes. I guess at that time only very well-off family could afford to do so. But I did have private tutor at home together with my older sister, a girl adopted by Grandma. Yes, Grandma also adopted a girl. It is quite customary for the poor people to let go of their girls that they could not feed and become some one’s adopted girl. Knowing the misery of not having any education, your Grandma was determined to give this girl some education although when she came to our family she was already nine years old and not having any school education at all. Your Grandma decided to hire a private tutor to come to our home to teach her traditional Chinese education. That was very old fashion Chinese teaching, still very active at the time, despite more than 50 years of Japanese occupation and education of Taiwan. I joined my elder sister as student taking traditional Chinese lessons, such as Three Characters Bible, Confucian Dialogue etc. I do not remember whether my sister join us. Perhaps she did not because she was too young to join us.

Our adopted sister learned to read and write the old Chinese way. It worked. As to your Grandma, she finally managed to write her own name in Chinese when she was almost 60 and needed to write to prove the government official that she could manage to read and write so she could go visiting other countries for business reason. At that time, Taiwan did not allow people to go visiting other countries as tourist, only businessmen could. Your Grandma visited many countries posing as a business woman.

At primary school, my sister was doing much better than me because she was made something like deputy class chief because of her performance. I never received any award as a student. Some of you know how I managed to go to primary school on the very first day entering the grade one. Your Grandma had not time to take me to school for registration. Most probably, she could not do it either because she could not read not write.

I went to go school for registration together with a neighbor on the first day. Next day I went to school by myself by walking about one hour. However, immediately on the first ever classroom, I got into the fight with anther boy who was fighting for the same seat that I thought was my seat. It turned out I was entering into another classroom, not mine.

Normally, a class had about 40 to 50 students. Half of them did not have shoes to wear. I belong to the bare foot troop. You could imagine how hot it was during the summer by walking over the oily tartar road surface. I did have a pair of shoes, but they are for official use only, not daily run. Some students really did not have any shoe at all.

I still remembered my first semester class report was ranked 32 among 50 some students. Your Grandma gave me a very rough beating, the first that I ever had. It was so bad that I did make effort to improve. After that, your Grandma did not bother with my school reporting any more, probably she was too busy with business and she had to ask someone else to read for her. However, my ranking at school stayed at #24 for the first four years because the other 23 students had tutoring lessons with our class teachers and had access to the trial runs of tests.

Since your Grandma never knew how to check on our school status. We were forced to sign off all school correspondence by ourselves. Without any help from any one, both my sister and myself did play truant without going to school for more than one semester until finding out by the neighbor and let your Grandma know. Our playing truant was two individual events, not related. I forgot why I did it, nor did I know why my sister did it. But somehow I remembered it was something that a small kid did not know how to handle; it was not we did not like school or we were poor students.

Both my sister and myself went on to tier one good middle school by passing the competitive exam(*1) without attending any tutoring classes. I still remembered when I passed, my teacher who taught me until grade four was asking people how could I pass. While at junior high school, I did not have any problem with my school work except English.

I must dwell on the subject English for a while. I found mathematics fairly easy. The Chinese not so difficult even though we had to study ancient classic Chinese. However, English was such an alien subject to me. I had to retake exam every semester just to pass. I even could not do the home work at all. Thus, in the beginning of every semester, all I had to do is to go to a special bookstore where they are selling teachers’ aids where all home works answers were available. In fact, until I was at the senior high school, one fellow student asked me how many English alphabets were there and I did not how many.

I went from one junior high school to another even better one after passing exam. Again I did not know how I did it. In fact, I even did not know that one is better than the other. As soon as I attend the new senior high school, I found I had another nightmare with English teaching. My English teacher at junior high also moved to the new senior high and again he was my English teacher. What a nightmare?

However, my life was completely transformed at this senior high school, the Attached Middle School of Taiwan Normal University. This senior high school was run by a very liberal principle. For the first time, I found a school principle could be so liberal. If a student decided that class was not his liking, he could just leave and enjoyed himself outside the classroom. All classes were named in serial number. My class is #55, a very famous one, indeed, in the history of that school. The school classes already run into four digits, i.e. now it is class 1xxx now. Only this middle school has such a class naming system.

After one year at this senior high school, the students at class 55 decided that our head teacher was very poor, so were most of other teachers. The class performance in school was notorious. We had most of the offence reporting, all stigma of poor lousy students. Most of numbers of students dismissed. Most of numbers of students on probation, etc, etc. Yet, we believed it was not our fault. We decided to revolt and signed a petition to the school principle, requesting to change all teachers. Our petition was signed by most students, except a few who believed we were revolutionary. To avoid being named as ringleader, the petition was signed in a big circle, i.e. no one was heading the signature signing list.

Surprisingly our petition was successful. We had a new class head teacher and all other teachers newly assigned. That was the sophomore year of the senior high and we had new teachers in all subjects. I had new English teacher and I was ready for him. How?

After the freshmen year of the senior high and, during the summer, I decided to do something about my poor English study. I felt I knew too few English words and I had no understanding of English grammar at all. I went to the city library and took a look to see if there was any book I could study. I pulled every book on the shelf and read it. It took me almost one whole day. Finally, I found a book, titled something like English Grammar Explained by Sentences. For every grammar rule explained, there are twenty example sentences. Yes, I could understand the book. The question was how could I come to read the book every day, fully understood it, and without having someone else taking the book before my arrival at the library.

What I did for that summer completely changed my understanding of English. I would read every rule, copied every example sentences into my notebook; yes, I was hand copying the complete book. And at the end of the day, I would hide the book at a place only I knew so that next day I could locate it for myself again.

I had no problem with my English study after that summer. Another finale episode about English study at the senior high school was the English teaching by the newly assigned teacher. He was quite a famous teacher. When he came in for the first class. We are waiting to see how good was he. Well what we found was totally beyond our expectation…

The new English teacher started talking English and English only. He started teaching the text book by explaining English with English. For our benefit he took time to write every words on the blackboard. And all of us were furiously copying every word because we simply did not understand his verbalism at all. At the end of the class, he finally spoke in Chinese asking if we had any problem. We were relieved and start asking in Chinese.

We were quite vocal in questioning his teachings. Yet, he made no concession whatsoever. All teaching would be in English, all home works would be in English, even the test would be completely in English. And only English to English dictionary would be allowed in the class. We were frustrated as a class and asked how could he expect us to spend so much time to study English, looking up every word in English and finding more words to be checked again. His answer: His job was to teach and our job to learn; if we had to spent 24 hours all day just to study his subject, it was not his problem. And in that case, he expected us to spend 24 hours a day just to study English at the expense of all other subjects.

Surprisingly, the class made it together with the teacher. And I was fortunate to have such a teacher in my life. This writing is dragging too long. But whenever I found someone that could not study well on any subject, I do believe it is a matter of diligence, not IQ(*2).

I will stop here for now. The next one will be on our higher education. .


(To be continued…)

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註釋:
(*1) 胖媽念的是「北一女初中」和「北一女高中」。是的,那時的北一女是有國中部的,而且需要聯考。更妙的是,我印象中看過一張胖媽的國中照片,裡面是有男生的!據說是因為那時的「北一『女』」有男生,哈。
(*2) "I do believe it is a matter of diligence, not IQ":I can't agree on it more!

Monday, January 12, 2009

Our Heritage (V)

故事再繼續…

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Our Heritage #5: Why we are losing contacts with Grandma's side of male relatives

What your Grandma did after being booted out of the rented residence and food stall at Youn Lo market?

She went into a JV(*1) with her tenant at the Circle. I did not know what was the deal. Probably without any business to operate after losing the Youn Lo stall, your Grandma wanted the food stall back from the leaser at the Circle. The leaser were from Hsin-chu and was selling the pork meat ball that was quite famous at Hsin-chu; even, nowadays Hsin-chu meat ball still dominates the market. I believe your Grandma, instead of evacuating the leaser, opted to work together with them. The JV worked out pretty well for quite a few years until somehow the other party decided to quit the JV and let your Grandma became the sole owner. Again, I was too young to know what was breakup deal, but I know it was amiable breakup because the employee from Hsin-chu stayed on to work for your Grandma.

On the housing side, it was another story. By that time, your aunt Mei Chu, my cousin, LoLo and LiLi's mother, was successful in occupying and claiming one house vacated by the leaving Japanese. Again, it was wild-west-time for every one to jump in and claim the property left behind by the Japanese. All you need to do is to physically take over the site and produce something to prove or trying to prove that the Japanese left it for you. God knew what was true or not. The house very close to #1 lane 41 Chi-Feng St and at the today's value at least US$2,000,000.

Your Grandma's nature born parents invited your Grandma to share the house with them. All of them lived in the newly occupied Japanese house, your Grandma's parents, their two brothers, and two sisters. Your Grandma had to pay to join. Again it is the backend court yard of the house that your Grandma was offered to built a small wooden house to live in. The total cost about NT$5,000 to build. The time we spent there, although short and only for a little over one year, was one of the happiest time we ever had. That small wooden house accommodated, my Grandma (my father's mother), your Grandma, me, my sister, and normally two food stall employees. We were very happy because we finally lived under our own roof. I could still remember how we sang together. All those old Taiwanese songs your Grandma could sing and I could too.

The happy time was quickly turned into an ugly story. Two brothers were without steady jobs after the war. They wanted to sell the house to raise funds to go into business. The elder brother was a magician, and I was quite often his assistant. That's where I learned Magics from. You would be surprised at that time they had to invent and make all magic tools by themselves. I watched them, group of magicians, developed the idea, test-run, and completed the tools and skits. Quite interesting, not much different than the modern-day brainstorming or R&D.

Two brothers wanted to go into business as goldsmiths. One of magician brother had a client, a goldsmith, decided to become a magician. The deal was cut: the magician brother would help his client to become a magician, and the magician brother would become a goldsmith. A perfect job swap. And eventually both were successful in their ventures. Amazing. I saw it happen.

Now back to the ugly story. Two brothers wanted your Grandma to leave by tearing down the wooden house so that they could sell the house as was. No compensation what so ever. Your Grandma asked them to sell the wooden house in a bundle so that she could recover the building cost. The answer was NO. Again it was a very tearful experience for your Grandma and us. We eventually left the house and left two brothers forever. Your Grandma's parents were unable to help, so was LiLi's mother.

Another traumatic experience with relatives. Your Grandma, this time around, decided to have really a house of her own. She paid NT$10k for our first ever self owned house. I did not know how she did it. Obviously the food stall business at the Circle was doing well. I was always asked to pen the price list in black inks over the red paper. That was how the prices were changed.

And our first self owned house at #8 lane 52 chih-feng st also had a vacant back yard that was built into another smaller house and rented out all the time. Another of your Grandma scheme to make more money.

Your Grandma basically cut off relations with two brothers for years, but maintained fare relationship with two sisters. Both brothers had wives quite mean to your Grandma's nature born mother. Believe Susan can still remember her; she was quite a beauty, but fat. At the later days of her life, she liked to stay with us at #1 lane 41 chih-feng st because she was not welcomed by either one of her daughters in law. She would pretend that she needed to go back to his son's places, but within less than one day, she was back with us. We knew it, but we would pretend that she missed us and needed to stay with us. In fact, she had no place to stay. Years later, LiLI's mother was doing better, and she went to stay with her daughter and son-in-law most of the time. As to the two brothers' goldsmith shops; both were doing well except they could not keep it. None of their children are in gold business any more. And we lost touch completely.

The next episode will be about my and my sister's schooling. And your Grandma vs our educations.

(To be continued…)
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註釋:(*1) JV:Joint Venture,指合資進行某項生意或計劃… (多嘴解釋一下,以免有人不清楚,可偏字典裡找不到縮寫字…)